Love and Respect

Jaden will get 50sen rewards from his Daddy for every week that he does his Ejaan and Spelling well ie all correct.

Last week, Hubby asked Jaden to do something.

Jaden asked “What will I get?”. He was expecting the same 50sen reward.

Hubby replied “Love and Respect”.

Disappointedly, he said “That’s nothing”. What he meant is the rewards are not something that is tangible.

Hubby laughed over it.


“Let’s go home” … Hubby and Jaden at KPJ Damansara Specialist Hospital.

Few days ago, for Hubby’s birthday, we asked Jaden “What are you going to give to Daddy for his birthday present?”.

Jaden replied “Love and Respect”.

All of us laughed.


Coffee Butter Cake

Since my maid, Moch, went back in early April, I’ve not been baking. Moch was my baking buddy. I used to tell her a day before and she would take out the mixer and all baking ingredients. I don’t like the washing up after baking, don’t like the greasy pots and utensils.

Yesterday was Hubby’s birthday. We had a pack day with weekly house cleaning, laundry and dinner at night. I could only made pudding, which is my family’s favorite too. We had dinner at Lala Chong Restaurant. My father gave us a big white pomfret, I did not have confidence to steam the expensive fish myself. I suggested to Hubby to bring to Lala Chong and asked them to steam for us. The fish turned out very nicely done. Jaden loves the fish very much and he ate quite a bit of it. The cooking charges for the steam fish was RM25. We had my parents and Hubby’s auntie to join us for Hubby’s birthday dinner. It was a simple and nice one.

Before I slept, I saw a missed call and sms from my best friend, Christina. Her sms “Wei, wei … Happy Birthday, hope you have a great celebration today and a wonderful year ahead . I replied “But today is not my birthday woh. It’s Hubby’s”.

This morning she replied “Haha, I got yours mix up with YC. Urs on 28th. Pls wish YC happy birthday for us”. My reply to her “Hmmm, guess our age is catching on us. I missed your birthday, you got my birthday inaccurate”.

But, my birthday is not on 28th. Never mind, it’s the thought that count. I am glad and thankful for the friendship that I have with Christina all these years.

I felt guilty for not baking cake for Hubby’s birthday. This morning, I finally bake again. I baked Coffee Butter Cake for him.

My sister baked this cake for us during CNY gathering. Jaden ate and love the cake very much. The next morning, Jaden asked “Mommy, can I have yesterday Siao Yi’s cake?” but I didn’t have any share of the cake to take home. My mother said the cake was not enough to share among all of us and since I can bake my own cake, I wasn’t given any. After reading my whatsapp post then, my eldest sister laughed and told my mom about it. The next day, my mom asked my Dad to send the balance of the cake to me. My eldest sister asked my youngest sister to bake more. She likes the cake to go with coffee. Basically, the entire family love my sister’s cake.

My sister gave me this recipe and I have baked this cake many times before. Without Moch around, I forgotten to take out eggs from the fridge. So, the eggs were not at room temperature.


  • 227g Salted butter
  • 140g Caster sugar
  • 4 Eggs
  • 1 tsp Coffee extract (optional)
  • 180g Self-raising flour
  • Pinch Salt (Optional)
  • 1 tbsp Instant coffee powder mix with 1 tbsp hot water
  • 1 tbsp Cocoa powder


  1. Preheat oven 180C
  2. Lightly grease the bottom and side of 8” square baking tray. Line the bottom with baking paper
  3. Beat butter and sugar till smooth and fluffy
  4. Beat egg one at a time till incorporated
  5. Add coffee extract, if using
  6. Sift is flour and salt and still till well blended
  7. Stir in coffee mixture and mix well
  8. Mix ¼ of the mixture with sifted cocoa powder
  9. Pour 2/4 of mixture into cake tray
  10. Pour the above ¼ cocoa mixture
  11. Top with the remaining ¼ mixture
  12. Bake the cake for 40-45 minutes


This cake is simple and easy to bake. The coffee and cocoa add a very nice flavor to the cake.


We had the cake for tea today, after our Tim Sum lunch at Oriental and Despicable 2 movie. Hubby ate far more than I expected, 5 pieces in total. He said it’s nice and not too sweet.

Oh yes … Hubby knows what he wanted for his birthday. His Nokia 925 is on the way.